I’ve been seeing my (24F) guy (30M) for a couple of months.
The sex is usually a mix of slow/passionate/vanilla and ends up rough at times. I like both.
The two issues are:
– Whenever I give him head, he forcefully pushes my head down and keeps it down even if I’m trying to push my head back up because I’m gagging. Only for a couple seconds, but he does it a lot. I don’t mind going deeper but on my own accord and action.
– In doggy, he tries to put a finger up my butt, I won’t say “stop” or “no” but I’ll squirm, wriggle away and laugh, but he keeps trying to do it. Last time I finally slapped his hand away and he kept doing it till I sternly said “stop it!”. I genuinely hate things up my butt and have said before to him.
I just feel frustrated cos it feels like he just assumes he has the “right” to do these things automatically.
How shall I approach? Gently or sternly?