My girlfriend (F 20) and I (M 21) have been friends for most of our life but have been dating for just over 2 years now. I just moved back to my home town after spending some time out of state for college, and I’m starting to get out more trying to make connections and friends in the art world here since I’m pursuing a career in the arts. As I meet more people l’ve realized that there are really nice humans that share the same passion of love and seeing the beauty in the mundane with an intoxicating positive outlook on life.
Slowly l’ve realized more and more that my girlfriend is somewhat the opposite. Yes, we share meaningful conversation and she’s admitted that she is “a hater at heart” and that she feels like “she doesn’t need or want to change” and during these conversations I bring up how I feel about it but she just doesn’t agree that changing would be beneficial for her, which I respect it is completely her decision to change or not especially for another person. But it really makes me want to distance myself and spend more time with the positive people in my life since I feel I can relate to them more.
And I understand, I also have my days but even on the days I don’t feel fit to have a positive human interaction I try my best to not let negative thoughts or unnecessary complaints fog up who I am and what my values are. I have meditative practices V which I work on understanding what I’m truly feeling before I speak it out into the world which I’ve insisted she try but she’s not interested
Lately what’s been getting me through is telling myself that’s just her personality and I should deal with it because I love her. But honestly it’s been getting harder to “deal with it” and I’m not sure what to do anymore.
TL; DR: My girlfriend’s pessimistic outlook is making me want to distance myself and idk what to do