me (m 25) and my gf (f 25) are in a relationship of 5 months, everything has been nice so far, she says that she doesn’t feel ready to have PIV sex yet and I told her that she can relax about that, that I only want she to be happy and do it when she feels ready.
she says that she fears that I will cheat on her because of this but I tell her that those are negative thoughts, that I don´t want to pressure her and that my ultimate goal is not just to have sex but to be in a healthy relationship with her-
but despite that she is very sexual, and she always arouses me when things get hot she is the one who initiates, I always respond and put her pleasure before mine, so far we had only had oral sex and some masturbation but nothing more, the problem is that when she is horny she initiates and gets me horny and I know the limits.
I do everything with love, but then suddenly after she feel she had enough we stop and cuddle and she tell me hurtfull things, starts to talk about her past relationships and how much they hurted her, and that she was afraid of having sex because she doesn´t want to have a negative experience again and so, she makes it look as if I was the one who always initiate, as if she is like the good and I am the bad, I don´t know, when she is horny she can be very “aggressive” but when she gets me horny and I am on the mood she makes me feel as if I was some kind of beast, and blame it on me, but the thing is that she always initiate, I don’t know what to do, probably some perspective could be helpful, I just want our relationship to be good, even if that means no sex at all.