This is a throwaway account.
I’m currently facing a situation in my relationship that has left me feeling somewhat confused and seeking advice.
I’ve (M26) been dating a girl (F23) who, up until recently, was in a long-distance relationship. According to her, they have broken up. However, recent developments have made me question the reality of their breakup. She’s going on vacation with her family to the country where her supposed ex-boyfriend lives. Interestingly, her mother has extended a dinner invitation to this ex-boyfriend, which means he will be joining them at some point during their stay. I only came to know about this through her sister, not from her directly.
To add to my confusion, her sister had already gone to dinner with him last night (her sister went early). Complicating matters further, his birthday is approaching, and now there’s talk within her family about getting him a present.
This series of events, especially her lack of transparency about the birthday dinner, has led me to doubt the authenticity of their breakup. I find myself grappling with feelings of gullibility and skepticism.
My question is: How should I approach this situation with her? I’m struggling to navigate these murky waters and would greatly appreciate any insights or perspectives on how to proceed. Is my doubt unfounded, or am I right to question the nature of their relationship? How do I bring this up without seeming accusatory or insecure?