So me and my girlfriend have been together for over 3 years now and we have lived together for almost the same amount of time. We are both in our early twenties and for the most part have a healthy relationship.
Ever since we got together she has known about my kinks which are: pegging, being dressed like a girl and just general femdom stuff. Over the years I have amassed a decent collection of dildos, harnesses, chastity cages, women’s clothing and other femdom stuff. Every now and a again we would have a pegging session but it was few and far between. Sex has also been no more than once a week for quite a while and giving each other head has basically disappeared entirely.
Just recently we decided to try and refresh our relationship by trying all sorts of things in and out of the bedroom to make our relationship feel more whole in every way, not just sex. With this I decided to be super open with her about wanting more femdom stuff done to me instead of just pegging and maybe making it more of the regular routine. She agreed and lately has been doing a lot of that.
Just recently she has been making me suck on the strapons, eat my own semen off of the strapon, dress in women’s clothing around the house and she even took me to Victoria secret to pick out outfits for me. She is making a huge effort to be dominant for me but I feel like I am struggling to reciprocate these things for her besides just fingering her or eating her out (which I’ve been doing a lot).
I am seeking help for two things:
1. How can I make her feel more prioritized but still have this fun dynamic?
2. What are some other ideas that she can incorporate to femdom sex in order to please herself potentially while also appealing to what I like.
I really want her to feel happy and fulfilled as well but she tells me that she doesn’t have any real kinks and that she likes what we do. She also tells me she wants to feel like she isn’t being put second.
I hope this makes sense and thank you guys so much!