Hello everyone! I am looking for a bit of guidance.
I 24F have been talking to this guy 25M off of bumble. We hit it off, have similar likings and he offered to take me out. We began texting, and after a few days he brought up planning our first date and asking my opinion on going to a restaurant that has arcade games. We’ve been talking everyday still. I told him I need a week before bc I have many work and school assignments I need to get through this week.
Nothing is wrong with this guy. In fact, he’s probably the most respectful and nice guy I’ve ever spoken to. But I’ve found myself becoming increasingly turned off/uncomfortable/ avoidant towards him. And I fully believe it’s because of him being someone healthy. While dating before meeting him I’ve spoken to several guys who started off with intensity and texting every day but obviously they didn’t work out and some just wanted sex. I am healing my anxious attachment inner wounds, so the texting every day is something I crave. Except, it’s the opposite with this guy and I’ve never experienced feeling suffocated by speaking every day. And a boyfriend has been something I’ve really been wanting lately, especially after taking over a year off from any guys due to being in an abusive relationship. I do go to therapy and it’s helped so much, but I keep making myself talk to this guy to try and overcome this feeling. With the idea that maybe if I expose myself to something healthy I’ll eventually become comfortable. Any advice on how to overcome this would be very appreciated:).