I am a 29 year old male that’s been with my 29 year old girlfriend for the last six years. From my childhood (all of us age 4) I have known and grown up with two females who are essentially adopted family for my very large Italian family. They go to every Sunday dinner, all events, etc etc. We’ve been friends forever, grew up together and event went on family vacation trips together.
I left home when I was 18, so my interactions with them naturally faded to occasional texts around birthdays and catching ups whenever I’m in town and such. From my point of view my girlfriend is extremely insecure with my relationship with my friends, anytime we go home for Christmas and I end up seeing them at family gatherings she always has the grocery list of things I did wrong, like I hugged them too long, I talked with them longer than everyone else, sat too close together while looking at pictures on our phones, etc.
I get the accusations that I want to have flings with them, the accusations that they only want to talk with me is because I’m taken and they’re trying to woo me away.
In her defense, they are both very attractive, and around age 12 I kissed one of them during a game of truth or dare where the dare was instigated by my little brother.
She keeps deciding my feelings and telling me I have the repressed lust for them because they are attractive and that I’ve kissed one. And not taking into account that they’re basically my sisters.
Now that the ground is laid, the reason for current discomforts I will take some blame for how I went about things and have already apologized for how I chose to go about.
About two months ago they both came into town for a work conference and wanted to say hello, and I told them I can stop by after work one of the days they’re here and get a quick bite to eat and chat for a bit. But I chose to not tell my girlfriend about meeting them before hand and chose to tell her once I got home immediately after. We worked through that fight that week, but weeks later she still keeps bringing up things and expects me to keep apologizing profusely for having these female friends and wants me to not hang out with them except when we go home and are together and stuff like that.
I just really don’t know what to do here and would like some advice.
tl;dr – I have two female friends from when I was age four that my girlfriend gets jealous about.