I’m M25. I’ve never been in a relationship and have never experienced any romantic intimacy, including sex or kissing. No religious reason behind it, I’ve just always been pretty shy and overweight so it just never happened for me. I’m slowly trying to make peace with of all it. I’m losing weight and trying to work through my social anxiety, and plan to start dating within the next year once I’m feeling mentally healthy.
However, I can’t help but feel like I will be greatly disadvantaged in the dating world due to my inexperience. I’m essentially brand new to romance, and I can’t imagine most women wanting to metaphorically hold my hand throughout the process. I would assume most women want a guy who knows what he’s doing, knows what he wants, and has that valuable experience of learning what to do and what not to do in a relationship. I don’t have any of that. I’ll be almost 26 still learning how to kiss. That’s something people struggle with when they are 15, not 25.
I know I can’t have this mindset, but it’s hard not to. How much of a hinderance is my lack of experience in dating? Am I making way too big of a deal out of this?