My partner is often distracted or disengaged when we are sitting at a table or anywhere out in public. He is often staring through me at other guys, trying to make eye contact with guys, walking away from his path to get close and nearly rub against guys, or stretching to get the attention of some guys. To me it seems he is interested in getting the attention of others, and I’m not sure why. I understand that it’s normal to look at and recognize others around us and I know it’s not my insecurity (I hope), but he is blatantly staring at others waiting for their attention back, and to me it feels disrespectful.
The weirdest act is when we are walking side by side and he wanders off away from me to get extremely close to other guys walking towards us to nearly touch against them and get their attention. There is a large amount of space for all of us to walk peacefully, but he goes out of his way to walk toward them.
When I confront him about this he is claiming that he is unaware or he didn’t realize it. So I have no other choice but to brush it off. I am failing to believe someone can be self unaware and oblivious. You have to make the conscious act to do this. I don’t believe he is so socially inapt.
Why he is doing this? Your input is appreciated.