I feel like I’ve been in a pattern my whole life of not being able to keep close friendships and I always feel like it’s my fault, even if sometimes it was a mutual thing.
I’ve gotten really close with a friend for about a year now, and I’m noticing some patterns that worry me but at the same time I don’t know if I’m just upset that things aren’t going my way? I’ve been told that I can be bossy so I try my best to accommodate my friend’s needs, but I feel like this friend does not do that for me. She is only willing to hang out when she wants to, and puts me on the back burner especially when she has a boy in her life. We have been talking about moving in together post graduation- I really want to live in an Urban area and have made that very clear from the start but she has just mentioned that because she grew up in a small town, she doesn’t want to do that and is basically expecting me to follow that. I know the answer seems clear to most but she’s one of the best friends I’ve ever had and we get along so well besides these things. Is it worth it to communicate this? Help