My husband and I have been married for about a year. I gave birth to our first baby about a month ago. I hated being pregnant, and although I love the baby and I know I was very lucky to be able to have a baby, it was not something that I would want to be all the time. I was very sick most of the time and having the baby was horrible, I haven’t stopped crying since then. Although the baby is healthy, it is very difficult looking after them. I still feel very tired and everything is very painful.
But ever since around a week ago, my husband wants me to be pregnant again and I really don’t want that. I would like to be able to just look after the baby and not have to deal with pregnancy all over again. I feel that I am still very young and have a lot more time to have more children. My husband believes that I need to have many children, and although I knew that, I didn’t expect he would want to have another one so suddenly.
I’ve tried telling him that it’s too soon and that I need to focus on the baby but he really doesn’t like that. The only reason I had intercourse with him was because I needed to have a baby, and I hate it every time. The last thing I want is that while I’m already in pain and looking after a fussing baby. I try telling him but he just won’t listen to me. It is the worst pain and makes it harder to look after the baby because it lasts and the baby is always needing attention.
I also have issues from old injuries from my career when I was younger that have not fully healed and combined with the pregnancy, I just want him to leave me alone. But he just will not, and I do not know what I am doing wrong which is causing him not to understand that I do not want to be pregnant again.