I’ve noticed that whenever I talk to someone I like (a girl or a cool guy), I always have an agenda of making them like me.
But when I talk to the “lower quality” people, I obviously don’t care about the result. I don’t need those people in my life. I just talk and enjoy the conversation, enjoy being the “better one”.
How do I have carefree interactions like that, but with people I need to impress?
*Why do I need to impress the high quality people? – because they are better than me and I feel less worthless when I make them stick around.
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Do ANY of these people actually like you?????
You would be surprised how good the average person is at sniffing out when someone is putting up a front to try and win them over. Everyone does it from time to time, but it’s a bad habit to get into. It can come off as vapid and off-putting. My suggestion is to challenge the way you seem to be classifying people. Sure, we live in a hierarchical society. But putting people in a “high value” or “low value” bucket as soon as you meet them is a really limiting world view. We’re all just human beings, and everybody has value. You’ll likely come off as much more natural and affable if you come into interactions with this in mind.