Am i overreacting to this situation?
On sunday 3/17, i (f19) went and visited my now bf(m19). We just put a label on ourselves that night. I stayed with him until wednesday 3/20. Due to him being in the military, and my work schedule, we have limited time to get to see each other. When i was up there, it was a four day weekend for them, and there were a lot of DUIs on base which cause for daily room inspections for the week. So that meant that i couldnt sleep in his room any longer. So i messaged a friend, who is my most recent exs new gf. And my ex has a HUGE problem with me for who knows why. I literally dont undestand why he hates me so much. But he caused a huge deal abt me staying in his gfs room, but she promised me it was okay. So i stayed one night in there, and planned one more night in her room. And she was cool with it, and even said it was okay if my bf stayed the night with me. So this is now tuesday night (3/19), and she comes to get stuff from her room. Well my ex had a problem that i let my bf come over. So he started talking shit abt me to his gf, and his gf told me about it. And then my bf starts laughing and asks to text him. So i let him text my ex (i gave him my exs snap) and they start texting. Now tuesday night was my last night with my bf, and i really wanted him to stay with me. But my ex started getting fussy and made my bf leave the room. And when i asked my bf to stay, he disregarded it and left. So i got upset that my ex was ruining my night and made my bf leave and all of that. So i packed up n left. And that caused an argument between me and my bf bc i was giving my ex the reaction he wanted. And looking back at it, i shouldve dealt with it better. After talking things out, my bf got us a hotel room (which he paid an ungodly amount for, for me to be in it for 7 hrs tops and himself 3.) and i want to pay him back. He wont let me but thats beside the point. Now since he stayed with me, he needed a ride to work, so i dropped him off at work and drove home. I got home and let my bf know. We started texting abt our days so far and then he drops this conversation on me. It goes like this:
Bf: “my sergeant thinks youre pretty”
Me: “tell him thanks for the compliment but im not on the market like that anymore”
Bf: “he says ‘we can change that babygirl’ 😂”
Me: “no thanks, ive got a good bf”
Bf: “hmmmm idk”
Me: “i do.”
And that was that. Well then today (3/21) he calls me and tells me the full story about what happened, and ill admit, im a bit upset. He also told his sergeant that “shes not even all of that either”. Idk i feel like if youre in a relationship, you should be like idk a lil possessive like “hey thats my girl tho” or “yeah shes the best” or sumn. And it hurt hearing that he didnt even say anything like that to his sergeant.
Okay so im a bit hurt at this point. And then he says something else. We joke around about “oh god this annoying guy/girl (talking about each other) is texting me.” Well he pulls that and texts me “stfu” so i say “gtfo my phone im married” and then he pulls this “alr then, couldnt even make me cum” which was kinda true. But it hurt. I never claimed to be good at sex, and he was way different than any other guy ive been with. It was challenging. And then i said “thats crazy” cause i didnt know what else to say and he goes “its true, i had to do your job”. And that hurt. My job? Oh so my job as a gf is to make you get off? Then teach me how to do so. Dont just be a dick about things and say hurtful things. Idk i dont wanna break up with him, hes done a lot for me these past couple of weeks, but the stuff hes said to me lately hurts. What should i do? Hes only had one gf, and they were together 7 years until she cheated on him in basic. I dont want to give up on him so early, but the words hurt. Idk. Please any advice helps.