I’m just dipping my toe in the dating pool after a 3+ year hiatus from all things romance/men. To say my last almost 1 year relationship threw me for a loop is a drastic understatement. Long story short: I was in love and he was pretty enmeshed in my life by the time I found out he was literally a con artist, and probably a sociopath. I’ve finally healed from that and am cautiously open to meeting someone again.
I went on a date with someone new last night and we really clicked. Because I met him online and because of my past relationship, I want to vet him thoroughly before I let my guard down. I’m not finding him on social media (which isn’t a bad thing, just makes it harder for me). He’s also new to my state and his family/past friends all live elsewhere. So I’m not really sure how to find out more about him and trust that. Everyone says go with your gut/instinct, but what else can I do to make sure I don’t fall into a similar trap I did last time-with either this or another guy?