Throwaway account because I am extremely embarrassed
I (F in her twenties) am unsure if I have ever had an orgasm through vaginal penetration or in general with a partner.
I do masturbate and definitely know what a clitoral orgasm feels like, however after having had 3 long term sexual partners I still do not know if I ever experienced a vaginal orgasm. I was with my first boyfriend for a year and as hormonal teenagers do, we banged a lot. I know for sure I never orgasmed with him. Partner no. 2 was amazing in bed and while I enjoyed our escapades, I don’t think I reached the high point. Partner no. 3 is the one I am unsure about. He was the first person I ever felt really comfortable with in bed, we had insane sexual chemistry and I experienced high points during sex more than once with him, but none of them felt close to the clitoral orgasms I have while masturbating. Those “climaxes” I had with him were very short, a couple of seconds at best, and my body only tensed up slightly (the nice kind of tensing up). They were uneventful to be honest. I also never had a partner make me orgasm the clitoral way, they weren’t comfortable using sex toys (which is totally okay) spent long minutes trying to please me orally which definitely felt nice but after 3–5 minutes I was usually thinking about what I needed from the grocery store. I don’t mind not reaching climax with a partner, sex to me is not about that one little moment but much more about the entire act and I like it either way. Orgasms are much more of a tension release to me.
However, the reason I am posting this is that everyone I have talked to, including these men seems to find it off that I don’t climax during vaginal penetration and/or clitoral stimulation performed by someone else. Is something wrong with me? Do others experience the same thing as me? Should I see someone about this?