Sorry about the vague title.
Basically me and my girlfriend have really good chemistry during sex which is awesome. I (M) always cum. Either during sex or from oral.
Now the dilemma is that she recently has been feeling like I forget about her. We’ve been together for a year, and every time we’ve had sex (which has been at least 2 times a day) I’ve made sure to make her cum afterwards as well. For some reason I can always make her cum from oral, so that simplifies things.
So: We have sex. I cum. And then I lick her so she also cums.
Recently however, I’ve not always had the energy/motivation to do this. And sometimes it’s been feeling like a chore, which I think demotivates me. I love making her cum, but when it feels like something I “have to do” I have a hard time finding the motivation sometimes. Especially because of the frequency. If we had sex 2 times a week it’d be no problem. Also because we have sex for a long time, so sometimes I’m really drained for energy afterwards. Obviously I see how it’s egotistical of me, and therefore wanna find a good solution.
Has anyone been in a similar situation? What’s a good approach, that could work for us both?
She can’t cumt before penetration because then she looses her sex drive and is too oversensitive.
Sometimes she cums from penetration alone, which is perfect for both of us, but it’s rare and too hard for me to do consistently.
We’ve tried using a vibrator during penetration which works well.
I’m also putting more effort into giving her oral spontaneously during the day, without expecting to cum in return, to make sure she feels wanted and like I don’t forget her.
Sorry if this got long winded. As you can see we have solutions already. But ideas and tips are greatly appreciated.
We have a great sex life and are very open in our communication. So this isn’t a huge deal, but I don’t want her to feel like this.