Few months ago my best friend started dating and i met her bf’s best friend Saba who was a year younger than me.( I am 18 years old female.) he liked me and started really bothering me. I didn’t like him and rejected him few times when he asked me to start dating. Just told him i wasn’t ready and asked him to ask me later. In the meantime I developed feelings and we had a good time. Together with our friends and also alone. Few weeks ago i was visiting his city and i met with him, my bff, her bf and their other friend Mun. We drank together but Saba had to leave early. At that time I also was not on good terms with Saba so we didn’t talk much so we didn’t leave an impression like we were talking so his other friend Mun didn’t know i had a thing for him. He casually started talking about his business and i gave him advices because i know a thing or two (I’m business major and my dad has a business and i see stuff). Later my bffs bf also got into our conversation and Mun started talking about his hardships at home so he really opened up with me.
I WANNA SAY HERE THAT I’VE NEVER DATED AND I BELIEVE THAT HE WASNT INTERESTED IN ME (he said that he had a school lover before and would never like anyone anymore and didn’t like dating at all because he didn’t believe in it so i didn’t even suspect a thing. He also told me he thought of me as his sister)
Later when he left my bff’s bf told him my social media so i added him and didn’t give it much thought. He texted me rarely so I didn’t give him much thought.(Saba knew he texted me) I liked saba so i was concentrating on him. He didn’t ask me out but it was my fault because i told him i would give him answers when i would be ready when he first asked me out.
Then he started withdrawing. i tried to maintain our relationship but he just made himself seem bad. I mean he is really narcissistic but started saying things that would obviously make him look bad. So we fought and he told me i was bothering him so I stopped contacting him. Mun would text me and i would give him short answers.
So yesterday i visited my bff and her bf so i met both Mun and Saba. Saba tried to pair me with Mun. But when Mun gifted me something Saba got jealous. So i was confused because i never thought Mun had feelings for me and i was really sad when Saba tried to pair me with him. So i asked my bff’s bf what was going on and he told me that Mun had fallen in love with me and told Saba. And Mun had only been in love once before and Saba didn’t want to ruin it for him but Saba also liked me.
so before my relationship with Saba was ruined he asked Mun to stop texting me because i was bothered. Mun asked me if i was bothered but I didn’t know he liked me so i told him that i wasn’t bothered.
So now Saba is pairing me with Mun. But Saba knows i like him. I make it obvious
What should i do so that Mun leaves me alone and Saba takes me back?
(I also dont want to hurt Mun’s feelings he really is a good person)