Hello! This is a VERY specific question and a bit embarrassing. I realize we are very lucky to be in this situation at all.
My husband (27M) and myself (27F) have been together for 10+ years. We have a toddler month old and have another baby on the way this summer. We have a deal where when our next baby is born, I can be a Stay At Home Mom (for at least a few years, until our babies are in preschool), and he can go on a one week trip to Germany with his friends next October. I’ve wanted this for a long time, we both have. I just don’t understand how someone could leave their family for more than a week to go to a different time zone, a different country, with all of their friends. I’m having a hard time seeing his perspective because although I do kind of get it, I just know I’m going to struggle with it when the time comes.
His perspective is that we both want something and we’re both willing to make a sacrifice for it – but to be completely honest with you all, I just want it my way haha. We also both know we started dating VERY young and have things we want to do, I’ve just never really had an interest in traveling. He said that this would be his only trip and he would make sacrifices no matter what (for example, if financial situation fell through and it was either I could be a SAHM or he could go on the trip,I could be the SAHM). He’s an amazing guy and an amazing husband, I’m not worried at all about cheating or drinking or taking things too far. I’m more worried about how it looks to other or how I will handle it when the time comes – will I be overwhelmed? Will I resent him? Etc.