Started seeing this girl in 2019, just got out of a 7 year relationship and wanted sex and a new girlfriend . This one came off as someone with many red flags but i liked her. Made it clear I don’t want to date “yet” as she seemed like future trouble like my ex (wanted to test her out for a few months to see her intentions) I also work lots of out of town jobs where I’m gone for weeks and don’t have time to see her some months ,found out she started seeing someone else and labeled it as dating with this guy 6 months later but still had sex with me that night. Did it for a month before telling me they broke it off. now i made it clear i wasn’t cool with her seeing other people and if she did it again to just break it off with me next time as I don’t want diseases or to be with someone who just got fucked the day before me. So now its 2020 summer and im working lots out of town but i spend every weekend I can with her and only her, i deleted my dating accounts and got comfortable with her as she said she was happy with our arrangement of seeing eachother only every weekend. summer 2022 comes along we are now “dating” sorta but not until 2023 do we make it official on social media and are a very happy compatible couple a year later
SO HERE IS MY PROBLEM!!! Me and her brother got intoxicated while hanging out and he told me everything. while I only hooked up with her this entire time of 5 years I found out she in-fact didn’t break it off with this guy in 2020 and saw him for 8 more months before he got married and dumped her. She then saw multiple other men while promising me she wasn’t this entire time. 2022 right before we got “serious” she was dating this other guy who ended up breaking it off with her too and after that we were “serious”. I know we weren’t official but i told her it bothered me and to be honest or il walk and she didn’t. She was with like 5 other guys while i only waited to see her every weekend. She cheated on these men with me and bounced around while I waited every weekend to see her while working my out of town jobs. I know I’m not in the right here for making her wait so long to be internet official but i felt like we were something this entire time and how can I trust someone that lied to me all these years and made me feel like I wasted my prime years. I tried confronting her about it without telling her that I know everything from her brother and im testing her honesty now but she still lies about the details when I bring up a serious conversation of the past. I love this girl but i feel betrayed and want to know if I’m crazy for staying after all this. I love her but she lies and does not communicate with me