So for most everyone else they have little to no problems making friends with women, but I always have and it’s only gotten worse as I get older. A big part of it is my severe anxiety but idk…there’s some kinda of barrier there. People just say “Treat women just like men” and all that, but if you’re sarcastic and you have dark humor, that doesn’t really work with women upon meeting them initially. Interacting with women seems so different, almost as if I’m a foreign species. it doesn’t help that I have no female co-workers, either. But the main thing really is…goodwill.
Women seem to treat me so differently than men. Women never open conversations with me, make jokes, ask me questions try to continue conversations, give me compliments in passing, etc. In my 31 years of life…women never have done that. It’s like I’m invisible to them, even platonically. And I’m not weird or anything. I don’t leer at women, flirt with them, or hover around them or anything. I couldn’t be more safe or respectful. I’m groomed, I’m in shape, I dress really well so it’s not like my hygiene ior my appearance an issue. (I mean I’m not a looker, but I’m just talking about making friends lol)
An issue that stems from my lack of female friends, is that I haven’t had a date in years and I have no way to actually meet women. And no, I’m not trying to make female friends and try to finesse them into liking me. My goal is platonic, but I’m trying to point out how this is a compounding issues.
I even tried volunteering at an art gallery to make friends, but that didn’t really pan out. I’m weird and my interests are alternative and artsy. Metal/indie concerts, festivals, art shows, indie horror films, naturey stuff, etc.
What am I missing?