My wife has been mentioning one of her coworkers, Bob, a lot. She spoke well about how he works, about how gentlemanly and intelligent he is.
I began to have suspicions and began to feel a little insecure, I told her how it made me feel that she talked too much about her coworker but she assured me that there is nothing between them and that their relationship is purely professional and work-related.
I checked her cell phone (I know, I’m an idiot for that) but I didn’t find anything, in the conversation between them they only talk about work, Bob is always the one who starts the conversation and tries to talk about things totally unrelated to work but my wife just answers him half-heartedly.
Also, my wife doesn’t seem as emotionally connected to me anymore.
She got a promotion at work, on Saturday we went to celebrate with her coworkers (since we moved to another state, she still doesn’t have any friends, but she gets along quite well with her coworkers).
I sat on her right and Bob on her left. They talked all night, ignoring my presence. When I tried to start a conversation with my wife, Bob would quickly interrupt us. When dessert was served they even shared it (they cut the cake slice in half and then exchanged).
How do I address this?
How can I trust my wife again and stop feeling so insecure?
I really have no proof that my wife is being unfaithful to me, I refuse to believe that she is unfaithful to me, she really isn’t like that.