Friend of mine just recently told me that I’m too mean to be nice with. I thought it was just our way of friendship- turns out, instead of telling me the mean jokes and sarcasm were a bad thing, she just reflected the energy. I thought this whole time that we were goofing around and apparently, I’m not a good friend for the nice stuff and she’s been avoiding talking to my normally because all I ever do is be mean and mess with her.
I don’t wnat that to be the case- ever. I make jokes and pick on her but only with friendly intentions. I never meant anything truly negative but since she’s mentioned it , it’s become increasingly aware that I’m just… too mean to deal with normally. Even if it is a friendly mean
How do I fix it? And I don’t need anyone being like “oh you’re blaming her” I’m not. It’s me that’s the issue here. “Oh you’re just a crappy friend. Live with it, move on.” I can be better if I know how- just… I don’t.
I wnana be a nice friend. I’m just naturally a very goofy person with jokes on the more bitter side. Help?