I know this is somewhat long. There’s a lot more context to the old flame but truly just like something non intimate is all I wanted to say.
29f and 33m duration almost 2.5 years. Had to repost and forgot ages. I do think my other feedback was good just reposting.
context: I am truly happy and in love with my husband we have 2 littles. This old flame is one of my best friends brothers. (Husband knows some of the past stuff but we have never gone into detail) I recently caught up with my girlfriend and I always ask about the family. She knows about the situation with the brother. Anyways I dreamed about him the other night and he’s been on my mind alittle more recently since I found out he was in a situation my friend told me about. Truly, not seeking to ruin my marriage or leave my marriage but is it wrong to want to connect or give closure or something? When the old flame died with her brother it was bad. Full blown blocked Ect. It involved really bad reveal of his addiction he needed help for. Anyways it’s been YEARS I guess close to around 8/9 ish years. Do I follow my intuition to say something or leave it be for the sake of everyone. It wouldn’t be to flirt or anything. Just a more I’m sorry for the way things were back then and I hope he’s doing well. Type deal. Side note I might totally get ignored and I realize that also but also just wanted to be nice. Thoughts?
TL;DR thinking about an old flame lately, best friends brother. I’m married do I send a message I might not get a reply to bc it’s been weighing on me or leave it be?