We’ve been together for 3 years and it’s been going on for a while now. It’s could be something simple like the vacuum broke. Instead of just saying “ this sucks. Let’s get a new one or try and fix it” I would get “ you see. This is what happens when you buy a bad vacuum. Why would you buy something like this. Now look what happened. You should have bought a better one. Or maybe you didn’t clean it out properly”. It’s not fair. It really isn’t and I’m getting frustrated for always being the root cause of problems that are sometimes out of my control. Today was my breaking point. Short version
-She works today from 9-2. And then from 4-10
-I’m out of work due to a bad njury on the jobsite.
– son is off from school
– I have doctor appointment at 10am
– grandma is watching him but asks to be back by 2:15 because she has work
Now anybody would say okay 10am appointment. I’ll be home by 12 the latest. But something went wrong and I ended up being there till 2pm. I was 50 minutes away and I couldn’t leave the appointment due to how important it was. I called to tell her hey when you get out of work pick up our son. She starts yelling at me saying that im the problem for taking that appointment on a day she works a double. I’m inconsiderate, and that it’s all my fault she’s stressed out now. Complaining the whole time. She ends up picking up our son at 2:20. 5 minutes late. I have the house keys because I truly thought I’d be home well before my son needed to be picked up. But now I’m running late. She’s at the house for 5 minutes until I get there with the keys. Just for her to go inside and nap before her second shift!!! A nap!! This was all out of my control. But I got the blame for everything. I got the silent treatment. I got the attitude and the belittlement. Like I’m some idiot for what happened. It’s not fair. Those are just 2 prime examples. And if I argue my side and defend myself, im the problem and im the person that should re evaluate if I wanna be with her because I can’t handle her “firey Scorpio personality”. I’m slowing losing my mind and lost all self respect because I can’t reach the bar she has set for me. If something goes off course. It’s not let’s fix the issue at hand. It’s let’s try and see who I can blame for me being overwhelmed and stressed. It’s a part of life we’re a team. I don’t understand.
TLDR I’m tried of all the disrespect and belittling for minor things that an adult should have no problem adapting to