I (21F) have been dating (23M) for 8 months. For the most part our relationship is good. We are long distance which has posed a few problems. First, i have never needed affirmation, but since being lost distance I feel as if cute words or compliments is almost necessary; however, after constantly mentioning it, he doesnt really compliment me. He even asked me he doesnt know how to compliment me?? On top of this he has what I believe is avoidant attachment style. Basically he likes his space. I have always been an independent person so I didnt mind, but its gotten to a point where even when he isnt working communication is slow and boring and due to time difference he is always about to fall asleep when we call.
Despite these minor problems the real problem happened this week. Our s** life has never been great. I have a high libido and he has a low libido and is very vanilla and I am not. Hes insecure about it as well. He never really ate me out but would do other things occasionally. I brought this up because i enjoy s**, and he said he doesnt like to have sex because i smell you know where. I was shocked bc i have had previous partners and never had problems (we had lots of fun in the sheets). While I could make some changes that MAY help, I really kind of was turned off by this comment and kind of got the ick. It has also made me hella insecure.
He’s a great guy, handsome, tall, a solid job, super calming, nice, a handyman, i love his family and friends, he pays for dates when I am in town, our future goals align, etc. Is this relationship salvageable or should I end it? Are there any solutions?
**TL;DR; : Should I break up with him because our sex life and long distance sucks even though we match on everything else? Is this salvageable and any solutions?**