We have been married a few years. Both in our 20s. Over the years I’ve noticed a couple of things (some of which are beginning to bother me). Appreciate your genuine advice.
First thing is, my partner (husband) says that when men have sex and ejaculate, it exhausts them + makes their body hurt/ache. I am not experienced before him so I don’t know if this is normal? He will complain of pains in his knees and down there. He has been to a doctor to rule out any underlying causes, but all was clear. I don’t know if this is normal for guys? Any tips?
Second thing is, I have never in our entire time of being married reached the point of orgasm. I’ve gotten very close, and I’ve had the tingling feeling leading up to orgasm, but never an orgasm. He doesn’t do much foreplay before or after. We usually just kiss and he touches me a little then gets straight down to business, which doesn’t give me enough time to get aroused enough and I end up feeling quite dry there and sex ends up hurting. How do I talk to him about this? Is it unfair that I want to be pleased as well? Any tips on how we can do this?
Third thing is he doesn’t like giving me oral/going down on me. But will happily ask me to give him a bj? I’m ok with that, but I don’t get why?