I’m curious about how people feel about this. Apart from when I had my first time, which I guess isn’t fair to compare in terms of awkwardness, with my ex and waited for 2 months because I wanted to make sure it was with someone “special” (turned out to be a cheater but that’s beside the point), I’ve only ever had sex after like a couple dates. But rn I’m seeing a guy for like 5-6 weeks now and we’re probably gonna wait to have sex until he’s in his new flat.
I have a few different thoughts on this. On one hand I feel like it would make sense that there is more established chemistry and mutual comfort with a person I’ve been getting to know for a while and I already feel more invested and connected emotionally compared to flings I’ve had that I hooked up with after 2 or 3 dates.
But then on the other hand I could imagine that this more intense chemistry can lead to an idealization of how I imagine things to go that could make the actual outcome to be disappointing. Like I’ve been looking forward to it so much that it’s easy to feel disappointed if it doesn’t go as well as I anticipate perhaps.
So I’m curious, how has your experience been with waiting vs. having sex early in the dating process? Did it change anything about how awkward your first time with a new partner was?