I (M55) found a sex video online of my neighbor’s wife (F45-ish) with a guy who’s not her husband. We’ve been neighbors for almost 20 years. I’ve watched their kids grow up, been to their parties, helped him do household repairs, and always walk over when her husband and/or her are in their yard and chat for a bit. A couple days ago I came across a video on a porn site that was the wife with a guy who’s not her husband and it’s got me a bit torn up. I don’t know when it was recorded but it was posted to the site 3 years ago. She looks at the camera (probably cell phone) several times and the camera moves slightly so I know someone is holding it and she knows about it. Maybe her husband is holding the camera, maybe someone else. I very much doubt she would have consented to the video being posted online.
If she cheated I feel bad for the husband but no good can come of my interfering. My only real concern is that there’s a video of her out there that clearly shows her face (and everything else) that I’m sure she wouldn’t want on the internet. The only upside I can see to telling her is that she can try to get the video taken down. But I see a lot of downsides like an awkward friendship, causing her pain, effecting their marriage, etc. My inclination is just to move on and never say a word to anyone. Should I just keep it to myself?