I just had two friends tell me that when I try to joke I’m actually rude and I make them upset and uncomfortable, and that I push their boundaries. One of them doesn’t want to talk to me anymore.
I try so hard to not make people upset. I always tell them that I don’t mean to be rude, and I ask them to tell me right away if I do something wrong. I have trouble telling when others are upset. Still, they often don’t tell me until it’s too late, and I’m losing friends because of this.
How am I supposed to tell when they don’t tell me? I don’t realize when I’m rude, and when I do realize, I apologize immediately. How am I supposed to do better?