Just recently an old friend from school got in touch. He became single in the last few months after a 6 year relationship. We are in our 20s so unlike me who has been single for years, he hasn’t been single as an adult and I would imagine he is used to being in a relationship. He is a genuinely nice person, attractive and very kind. If I was asked to write down my ideal partner, he would fit the bill. We have went on two dates and while they have went well, I haven’t yet felt that excitement but I do enjoy being in his company. He seems to be moving a lot faster than me, suggesting future plans, is very affectionate and would definitely like to be physically intimate (but also respects that I’m not there yet).
I feel frustrated with myself because I feel suffocated. He’s not meaning to make me feel this way but he wants to see me all the time, and I find myself having to make excuses just to give myself some space. If I don’t give myself that space I know I will be overwhelmed. To add to the frustration of this, this is exactly how I wanted my ex to treat me but he treated me the complete opposite – so it’s like, why don’t I appreciate it now that it’s in front of me?
Has anyone ever experienced this and continued seeing the person to find their feelings grew ? I’m also conscious I don’t want to waste this persons time
Thank you 🙏🏼