Hi everyone,
On a throw away account here.. My (28f) husband (29m) have been married for two years, but only moved in together six months ago due to career changes/an out of state move.
I’ve given up my career, am struggling finding a job, and am independently having SUCH a hard time. I’m in therapy and take medications for depression.
Once moving in together, I learned about significant mental health challenges my husband has. This was kept from me (we’d only see each other a weekend a month before moving in together). I’ve asked him to go to therapy (either together or by himself) and he agreed. There has been zero follow through. I’m now also in spousal support groups for these issues to navigate.
Overall, I think I’m just grieving for the things that I’ve lost. I’m not happy and am starting to really resent him. I feel like after all of my changes/things I’ve given up, a promise to receive treatment for his betterment (and our marriage’s) should be honored. Again, I’m actively working through these things in therapy.
Is this situation worth an ultimatum?