Been dating this girl for 2 months (meM27 herF22), everything was going great and we really liked each other, we both want something serious and look for a deep meaningful connection but we’ve also expressed the desire to get intimate with one another for quite a while. Before last week’s Saturday we’d sext and tell each other how we’d love to tear each other’s clothes and just in general we’d exchange sweet and loving messages, she’d call me cute names and tell me how much she was excited to see me. 2 weeks ago after spending time with her she asks me if I want to come over to her place. At this point I open up to her and tell her that this was going to be my first experience, she’s very supportive and says that there nothing to worry about.
As we approach the day, attraction is through the roof, she says that she’s also very nervous even though it’s not her first time as she wants this to be special for me which was very sweet of her.
On the day, however we both have out own issues, she struggles to get wet, however she manages to overcome that, but I struggle with anxiety and can’t get a proper erection, we resort to cuddle, kisses and pillow talk which we both enjoyed very much.
I apologied to her once back in home and she does the same but I can help but noticed now a shift in the dynamic. No more sexting, or constant steady messages asking about my day, very little conversation when we do text, we met 3 days after that day and even though we’re meeting next Friday for dinner I just feel like she doesn’t feel quite the same anymore towards me.
I asked my friends and they suggested talking, but I’m afraid I might make her feel uncomfortable about this.
I know I skilled and glossed over a lot of details but I don’t want to turn this into a wall of text.
What do you think happened/is happening? I’m still very much attracted to her but I don’t know if she’s feeling the same and if she’s maybe thinking what I’m thinking right now..
TL:DR: tried having sex for the first time after very strong mutual attraction, however couldn’t do it because of anxiety from both sides (mostly mine), now we’re still going out but there’s a general reduction in texting and generally no more showing of as much interest (still there, just not as strong)
Thank you