I have recently started dating this guy (very recent like about a month) but something he’s done a few times annoys me but I’m not sure if it’s just me being overly sensitive or this is a red flag.
We are both single parents (him to 2, me to 1, similar ages). Our incomes are probably pretty comparable but we’ve never actually said what we make (but he’s a profession that it’s easy to know what he makes, whereas he probably as no idea what I make). My ex husband and I made smart financial decisions in our younger years, and because of that even with modest incomes and a divorce where we split our assets, I own a home, have a newer paid off car, and it’s obvious I treat myself to a certain level of luxuries (nails, massages, etc). I am going to assume he probably thinks I make more than I do. I also get child support from my ex but he doesn’t know that. Meanwhile, his ex wife blew through money and they both walked away with just debt from the divorce. He rents, has an olde vehicle, etc. He doesn’t have to pay child support as they make similar incomes.
I knew going into this relationship he wasn’t going to be like my ex who made big $$ and to be honest spoiled the heck out of me. I don’t want or need that. However he’s mad a few comments that have rubbed me wrong.
First, we always watch tv at my house in my bedroom. He doesn’t have a tv in his bedroom and I told him he’d have to get one. He said “are you gonna buy it for me”. I’m like nope and kind of rubbed that off.
Tonight he texted me “want to buy me an early birthday gift”. His birthday isn’t until June and we’ve been dating a month so… no but I thought he was joking and gonna send something silly so I asked what. He said he got a new desk and needs an office chair. All I sent back is “your birthday is June”. He said “yeah, early?”. We’ve each paid for about half the dates but he has paid for a couple “nicer” dates. I don’t mind paying for dates but I don’t like this.
Am I overreacting? My ex boyfriend used me in other ways (obviously not financially) so I’m trying to make sure I’m not being overly sensitive.