Our toddler always becomes really difficult when he’s away from one of us but yesterday was a nightmare. So much screaming, spilling food and throwing things at my head.
By afternoon I was exhausted and my husband called while in his hotel room after I messaged him. I tried talking to him about all the stuff our toddler has been up to and he just kept jokingly repeating “spank him” over and over and getting louder until I hung up because he wouldn’t listen.
He called me back and I told him I didn’t appreciate that. Then he asked why I didn’t call his parents to help and I said that having other people in the house feels stressful to me because I need to feed and entertain them, especially because he previously got angry at me for only offering his parents snacks.
He then blew up about how I can never do anything on my own and if I’ll also call him in the event of a fire to first ask if I should save our toddler or not. I told him I didn’t ask him a single thing and I’m not expecting him to solve this, I just wanted to talk.
He then asked me to do a task for our business. Saying there is this huge long email chain that someone doesn’t understand and I should read it and explain it to her. He also mentioned he already read it and knows what it’s all about so I asked if he can’t tell her since he already knows (at that moment I was running after our toddler who was trying to wipe his sauce covered hands on the couch).
Cue more shouting because he’s at a conference and busy (I didn’t know, he’s been in the hotel room and sending me pictures of beers all day). Then he asked if I would prefer doing the conference for him and I said that I could’ve done it but he wanted to go.
He then hung up and texted me that he can’t believe I think I would do better at the conference than him??? Never said that, wtf.
Followed by things like I don’t like you, don’t talk to me.
I told him I called him because I wanted to talk for emotional support and that’s all. I didn’t need any solutions. I just wanted to have a conversation and be listened to. And that I never said I would do better at the conference but I’m aware that he would probably do better than me with the stress at home.
He’s been ignoring me since then and it’s been 24 hours.
I just don’t know how that even escalated and how to deal with the aftermath.