In high school, there was a guy that I was absolutely obsessed with. He was my major crush in every way until he asked me to be his homecoming date… then, I remember being so confused by my sudden swing of emotions. I remember feeling absolute hatred in my heart for this poor guy who did nothing but finally reciprocate feelings. After that day, I hated him, wanted nothing to do with him, and avoided him at all costs… this experience troubled me, as I knew it wasn’t normal and couldn’t figure out why.
Fast forward many years, and I still seemed to not have outgrown this. I constantly obsess and crush over guys who seemingly exhibit the “hot and cold” behavior. I always seem to become infatuated by the guys who maybe like me a little – but never enough, always holding me at arm’s reach. Their texts would give me highs of validation and their rejection would absolutely blow me.
With that being said, I would figure that a nice guy who treats me nice would be everything that I ever wanted. However, I realized that I have never actually been really into a nice guy who was totally into me… I am usually quickly turned off. I realize that this can become a major issue down the road if I don’t address this, and any psychological insight and/or advice would be much appreciated!