Long story short, I have not had sex in about 2 years until recently. I’d been married for almost 15 years and my husband and I never really had a lot of sex even when we liked each other. Weeks, even months would go by and we wouldn’t have any sexual contact. After I started talking about divorce, sex stopped completely so I know its been at least 2 years, maybe longer since I was with anyone at all.
Well a few weeks ago I started realizing I was having feelings for a guy that’s been a good friend for like twenty something years. We’ve always flirted and joked around but things never progressed beyond that. We had lost touch with each other the past few years and recently had reconnected a few months back. It was pretty much innocent at first but the more time we spent together it was becoming pretty obvious that we wanted to be together. I’m still married technically and I was extremely worried that he would get dragged into the drama of my divorce and also that it would probably ruin our friendship. So I was hesitant to do anything at first, but I finally gave up on pretending I didn’t want him too and we hooked up.
The relationship itself is going pretty well. I have always loved him as a friend and the transition between us being just friends to us becoming a couple has been great. We are both pretty happy with the way things are going.
Here’s the problem though.
Since it has been so freaking long since I have had sex, it was like losing my damn virginity all over again the first time we had sex. It didn’t hurt, but it’s super tight down there. I’m a relatively small person and have very narrow hips or whatever. So add in the fact my husband has a, not small, but not extremely large penis, and the fact we haven’t had the most active sex life – well it seems like everything has shrunk down there!
My new boyfriend is extremely well endowed, especially when I compare it to what I’ve been used to. Again, it’s not painful or anything when we have sex, but we have had some issues with trying to make it fit. Even with lots of lube or me being extremely wet and ready, it’s still a struggle to get started. Once we do, it’s great! But he’s complained that it’s so tight down there it almost hurts him at times. Especially when I cum since I apparently clench up.
I don’t do kegals or anything so I’m not sure how to stop myself from the clenching thing. But I don’t know if there’s anything I can do to make it so I’m not so tight that he feels like I am trying to push him out of me. I was thinking that it would loosen up as we had more sex but it hasn’t. It hasn’t impaired us from having sex of course, but I’m wondering if it is ever going to loosen up down there so that it is not such a struggle to get going.
Is there anything I can do to help things along? I don’t have any issues with getting wet, and even have tried using extra lube to see if it would make things easier. It didn’t. Im thinking once I get used to his size and having regular sex again it should loosen up down there and we won’t have this problem. However if there’s anything I can do in the mean time, I’d love to hear about it!
*I know that this is probably a weird thing to complain about. He’s been great about the situation, hell we usually laugh about it but damn! I don’t like the fact it feels like such a struggle to even get it in there, let alone that I’m so tight that he feels like I am trying to push him out when I cum! The sex is great but I’d really love to not feel like I am being devirginized every time we do it.