TLDR: I’ve been catching feelings for a friend I’ve recently hung out with and I’m worried I’m getting too attached and trying to figure out if I should limit my interactions.
Basically met this coworker a few months ago and it seemed like we liked each other a lot. We ended up exchanging numbers so we could contact each other. I suggested we hang out so we set up for a day, eventually did, and had a lot fun! But now I’m noticing I get super jealous whenever she mentions dating other people or finding other people attractive and I’m scared I’ll get super hurt if she ends up actually dating someone. I’m also noticing I’m caring a lot more about what I say and what I do whenever I’m around her, and I honestly hate it cause I already overthink what I say or do.
What exactly should I do about this? She seems really comfortable being around me, at work when we see each other we usually stay together and talk about stuff, but I figure you wouldn’t mention your dating life or the people you’re attracted with if you’re interested in someone no?
So I’m kind of thinking she probably just views me as a really good friend. Which I wish I could maintain (she’s super cool), but I can’t help but feel this way and it makes me think maybe I should limit my interactions with her so I don’t get hurt. But I feel like doing that without any explanation is kind of an asshole move.
So should I communicate what’s been going on in my head? I’m really worried that me being honest is going to lead her to being uncomfortable around me. But then I’m worried that me being not honest will lead to me getting hurt and then being an asshole to her as a result of getting hurt.
It might also be worth mentioning that we don’t quite work together (at least not anymore, we just see each other occasionally) and we’re both planning to leave in a couple of months, so it wouldn’t be a long-term workplace issue.