38 (f) and 44 (m) both have been divorced. I’ve been with my man for almost 4 years. In that four years everything was great until about a year ago. When I found out he was secretly texting another girl. I caught them. They both said they were done, about three months later I found out that they had started talking again. Once again, they told me they were done for real this time. The girl actually friended me and was talking to me about everything. Then find out my man found a new girl to message, all the while still telling me he loves me and wants to be with me. My brain knows what the right thing is to do. But my heart can’t stand the thought of anyone else being with him. Anytime I bring up her name that they are talking he makes it a big deal that somehow it’s my fault. How do you break this cycle?