Ok weird title but as I was washing the dishes and smoking some weed after playing videogames with my siblings I have noticed that none of my friendships last more than 2 or 3 years tops? And it’s not even because I or they do something horrible it’s just that I either get too invested in something like a job/series/hobby that I start making friends around that thing I’m interested at the moment and end up forgetting ny old friends and it’s like a cycle OR that they did DO something that raised red flags in my mind and it is just /too/ easy for me to cut them off with just some very slight but not too big feelings.
Literally the only people I’ve never stopped talking to are my parents and siblings and besides of the fact it’s because I love them I think it also has to do with the fact we all live together still (We are from latinoamerica so yeah, very common for adults to just live and take care of their parents until or if we get married).
And the thing is, I still don’t feel bad about it. I love having my alone time and when I don’t I just talk with my mom or siblings or make new friends about my new interest and chat with them but then after a while I will probably ghost them and it’s fine by me but I’m starting to worry that I have made some people sad over this? I remember back in high school some old friends did cry over me just leaving to go to another university far away from them but I was just like “well, it does suck” but as days passed I never spoke to them again. And that usually happened since I was a kid, I just change my friend group and forget the last one and I don’t mind being forgotten by them either.
Overall idk what kind of advice I’m looking for, I guess maybe a general opinion of if I should stop doing this? Or if it’s something unhealthy I’ve normalized? As I said I live a very comfortable life atm so this is just me being suddenly curious but I’m also very open to changes (Well duh, I change friends like I change underwear) and if I’m being a terrible person without noticing I wouldn’t mind being told that too.