tw: pregnancy and abortion
my boyfriend and i have been together for a year, and we live together. i found out today that i am pregnant. we’ve had an “oopsie” months ago and i took a plan b. however, we talked about it and he said if anything had happened we would figure it out and be okay. today when i showed him the tests, he became really cold. obviously this was an accident and i was still in shock myself. he said “why are you crying? we have options” which lead into a discussion where he made it clear he thinks i should get an abortion as he thinks it would financially ruin us (combined we make around 80k). i’m starting grad school this fall, and he says if we have this baby i’ll be stuck bartending forever. he did tell me that ultimately it’s my choice, but again- made it clear he was uninterested. i respect his opinion and i don’t want to do this if he doesn’t want to either. i wish his reaction was different but i can’t change that, and in fairness when i found out i was violently shaking and couldn’t stop crying. but god- i do not want to have an abortion. i am pro-choice, but personally it’s not my first choice. he says it’s an open conversation but i don’t want him to feel like im pressuring him. i want to give him and myself time to process, but how long should i give him until i accept where he’s at? for context i’m about 8 weeks and in my state 15 weeks is the cut off for termination.