What’s your experience with dealing with mom issues from a girl?

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1. Almost everyone has significant issues and nearly all of their issues come from their parents.

   To me, I care way less about the issues and more about the person and how they handle the issues. Have they gone to therapy and worked on themselves? When an issue comes up do they have the ability to deal with it and express their feelings like an adult?

2. Dated a woman with a very demanding and controlling mother. Apparently it was so bad that her dad would basically just tune out the mother’s nagging. The woman I was dating was just like she described her mother. I mentioned once that she’s like her mother and she blew the fuck up. Yeah, she was messed up. Never again.

3. >My ex gf was clingy and possessive.

   This is basically my #1 weakness while dating

4. Did she see her dad in and out of her life? Did her mom sometimes in her pain take it out on her kids? Was there resentment because your ex was a daddies girl?

5. Dangerously irrational, really bad communication, disassociation, abusive behavior, everything was my fault, manipulative. Equally sensitive and insensitive.

6. I’m worried that you mentioned the clinginess/possessiveness is ok in a relationship. 👀 Those traits are big red flags for codependency and sometimes abuse. Maybe it’s time to do some inner work to unpack why you put up with those behaviors during your relationship, and if it’s part of a larger pattern.