so, I used to be a shy person and never knew how to start an interesting conversation with a girl in general. But like 10 years ago this changed a little, I started talking to anyone, doesn’t matter who that person was, since it wasn’t a girl I had some kind of feeling.
Nowadays I still can’t talk to girls who I have feelings for. That feeling doesn’t need to be like “i like you” or “i love you”, just the fact that I want to kiss her stops me from doing ANYTHING close to her. Like, idk how it is outside Brazil, but in parties it’s really common people kiss a lot of people, but neither in those parties when I have already drank, I can’t talk to a girl for me, but if I try to make her mind to kiss my friends it’s kinda easy…
What the heck happens to me? I can’t neither start nor maintain a good brief conversation in a f****** party…
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Stop putting girls on a pedestal. Genuinely connect with people in real life e.g. ask how they are, their hobbies, interests goals, opinions, etc. Listen and pay attention to what they say. Share those things about yourself when asked. People also subconsciously attach you to the value you bring. The value you bring is a clear, unique, and convincing reason why people will interact with you, let alone do so constantly. So Find ways to add value to their lives. Having In person interactions is the easiest way to stand out from countless people who text or message. People remember and favor in person interactions because of the positive vibes. If your hobbies, skills, talents align with their interests or can help them, bring it up and offer to help them. Finally, learn how to be genuinely busy in your life pursuing your goals and hobbies, while interacting with people on the side. People are hardwired to be repulsed by neediness and desperation and instead gravitate towards those who are self confident and well rounded in life. They want to see active confirmation of you actually doing something in your life other than just talking to them. So chase excellence, not people.