As title say, i’m starting to feel really lost, i’ve tried several techniques kegels, reverse kegels, edgeing to name a few. I even bhought some program called The Coach which is said to help with this in 8 weeks. i’m now 4 weeks in but im not noticing any major difference.
The issue is mainly during penetration. when i get oral or a handjob it’s fine i can last 30 min+ but if i have penetrative sex with my SO the urge to ejaculate comes pretty quickly. If have sex slowly it’s fine i can last about 5-10 minutes stopping each time just before i ejaculate. But this technique really sucks because sometimes she tells me “oh that’s just right or keep doing that” and i just can’t because i need to stop or else i cum. I also can’t “fuck her hard” because as soon as the thrust speed increases the feeling to ejaculate kicks in. So all i can do is have slow sex with regular stopping which kinda ruins the mood for me.
I’ve done alot of self reflection and noticed my mind play a major role in this, the thing is if my mind is not focused on sex my dick goes soft(trying to stop myself from ejacualting by thinking of something else for example, but it can also be something so simple as grabbing the lube, then my dick start going soft aswell), if it’s too focused on sex i prematuerly ejaculate. so just find a balance right? well this is extremly hard during sex. I feel the urge to ejaculate i think about something else i go soft. I’m really out of ideas here.