Hi everyone! I (27F) have been with my boyfriend (31M) for four months. I’m his very first girlfriend and he had never had sex before me. As for me, I only had sex twice before meeting him. Needless to say, we’re both beginners.
Our nights together always feel very good, we are very comfortable about sharing our needs, our kinks, etc. But there are two things I’m wondering about :
First thing, the condom sometimes slips off. It usually happens when I’m on top. Is this normal?
Second, my bf seems to be suffering from death grip syndrome. We have talked about it together and decided that he would reduce the amounts of times he masturbates (he’s maybe doing it once a week or not at all, before that he did it every day). Still, when we have sex together, he cannot finish without his hand. It takes a lot of time and effort for him to finish, and it always ends up with him masturbating on his back while I’m touching his body.
In some ways, it is frustrating for me as I don’t feel good enough for him to come inside me or with my hand/mouth. I know it’s stupid, and I’ve never voiced these concerns to him because I don’t want to put any pressure on him. But I’d like to hear from other men who previously suffered from this syndrome.
Sometimes, he will also soften while he’s inside of me. He tells me that it happens when he moves too quickly, so he has to go slow down in order to get hard again.
I have no idea how to help him. Was anyone in this situation before and managed to overcome it?