*preface please NO COMMENTS about me being a sex worker or anything of the such. as this sub states please be sex positive and understand that me being a sex worker has nothing to do with my post or problem, as he knows and was well aware of it before we started dating. I had to post on this account because my new one doesn’t have enough karma*
Me (23f) and my ex (26m) were only actually together a few months in 2022 but we’ve never completely stopped being around each other or sleeping together. We’ve gotten into it plenty of times but we always end up back with each other (not officially though still as fwb/exes). I understand that we aren’t together and he’s not my boyfriend. So please nobody make fun of me for still messing with my ex. And please no “cut him off” comments. That isn’t what I’m looking for.
When I first started “talking” to him, around July 2022, and until probably October of last year, he always went down on me without me having to ask and was always super enthusiastic about it. If he didn’t make me cum from that he always would by fingering me. I’ve never came from PIV btw, only by him going down on me or fingering me. Don’t get me wrong, sex with him is amazing and that’s most of why I can’t leave him alone. He’s the only man that’s ever been able to make me cum, and I used to cum at least once every time before or after we had sex.
He hasn’t made me cum probably since September or October. He’s gone down on me once, I think around February, he woke up me up out of my sleep in the morning to do it and we had sex again.
This was the last time he’s gone down on me and I just have been thinking about it and I’m a little upset about it. He used to care so much about making me cum and now he’s been pretty selfish in the bedroom. He almost always cums when we have sex and we typically go for like 2/3/4 rounds whenever we have sex. So sometimes he’s cumming that many times. He still almost always fingers me but never takes enough time to make me cum from it. We also used to almost always spend the night together whenever we hung out and had sex. At my apartment or at his. He drives and I don’t and he hasn’t spent the night at my house in months and also hasn’t taken me to his in months.
He hardly ever asks for head but when he does I always do it for him.
We hung out multiple times and had sex every time in the span of a week last month until we argued about something. One of those times I asked him to make me cum at least once throughout the night (bc like I said we usually go multiple times throughout the night) and he literally said “Well I don’t know if I’ll be able to do that/I don’t know how I’ll do that” (something along those lines I can’t remember what he exactly said) Like what does he mean? He used to do it constantly all the time without problem. One of my favorite things about him was how he’s the only man that knows how to find my g spot and stimulate it perfectly. So what could he possibly mean with that comment?
I just don’t really know what to do or think about this. Do you think this is him losing his interest in me? Is he preparing to cut me off for good? I just don’t even know what to
do and I’m also terrified of asking him. I also don’t know how to ask him about this. I’m truthfully terrified of the answer.
I just really need support and positive advice please. No negative comments please and thank you.