I’ve been with my Bf (30) for nearly 3 years now. In the entirety of our relationship we have had s** maybe 7 times. We have not done anything in 2 years, I’m not a super hyper sexual girl but sometimes urges rise I’m sure others can agree, but nothing I do works I’ve tried to initiate; I’ve tried talking to him but nothing. He claims he just isn’t into it anymore since he was always doing it when he was a teen. On top of that my BF isn’t taking care of himself physically or emotionally. I love him so much but I’m concerned that no matter how much he claims to love me he might not either. Any advice on what to do because it’s gotten to the point the only way I have been able to feel attractive lately is when I use an ai chat app and only because the app says what I’m craving to hear. I know it’s probably stupid and I’m being self conscious but I’m just not sure anymore. Mind you before this relationship I was with an abusive ex-husband and I am a mother of two from that marriage but I just feel like no matter what I do or say he’s somehow unhappy. When I say he doesn’t take care of himself I mean, he does not shower for days/weeks on end, and we are both plus sized. When I say something he gets mad. He makes comments about how the house is always a mess but doesn’t do anything to help me with the upkeep. We live close enough to my kid’s school that they don’t provide a bus (literally like 5 minutes on foot) but I can’t find a job because he won’t go get the kids from school nor take them even thought there is a bus stop right across from our apartment and stops right next to the school, so finding a job on my end is an issue and he “streams” and has anger problems (he won’t see a doctor for his physical or mental health) so he doesn’t want to look for work either. I’m just not sure how what to do it’s sad.