Hello,
I am on vacation in Miami, and today I decided to go out and go to a nightclub. I have never been to one (I’m 25) because I have never been social and have surpassed by social anxiety only a couple years back but my ability to make or maintain friends has never worked out. I went to the nightclub (E11Even) which is also a strip club to my surprise. Anyway I could not have fun in any way I was stuck in this emotionless face I could not smile I could not dance I could not have fun. To try to unstuck myself I drank 3 beers and then went to a private dance with one of the worker dancers (I did not ask for a strip or a lap dance) I asked her to dance with me in private to get me into the mentality of its ok to dance with women to touch them and to have fun (with their consent of course). After this and after some more time wasted doing nothing and going around I tried to approach a girl who seemed as miserable and stuck as me. She turned and she gave me this look of assolute disgust that never have I imagined could happen. She said ewww with her face and basically ran away from me. I was so humiliated and utterly devastated, still am. Turns out girls can do a lot more than say no. After that I tried again to have fun on my own at the club but I couldn’t. I don’t know how, I’m so rigid so stuck I want to cry.[me](https://imgur.com/a/BB57rhW)
Anyway for reference these 2 pics in the link are from a couple days ago. Am I that unattractive, am I that ugly? What’s wrong with me…
I’m 5 11 I weight 162 lb not the fittest but definitely not that much out or shape.
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Well u can change by start working out on the gym, by doing this not only makes u looked better but also change ur social because u met people by people when going to the gym and u be able to build confidence from it. oh right don’t forget to hire trainer
also change ur hairstyle and the way u dressed/fashion, to me u looked like introvert geek kinda guy
Well, maybe you’re just not a club type of person? Many people are not. It’s usually better to go to a club with friends anyway. I’d assume it might be awkward going alone, at least for me it would be. It
Might be easier to go to a bar next time. Baes are usually smaller, less crowded and probably easier to engage in conversation than a club/strip club.
I think you look mighty fine. It depends on what you want to be, you’ll find that some people like you just the way you are.
Speaking from experience guys lose out on 3 things: chasing the wrong kind of woman, not being sensitive to how their actions affect others, not working on themselves
Well first you aren’t gonna find quality women at strip clubs or nightclubs. You’re a good looking kid who doesn’t need to pay someone to dance with you. I’m sure with enough confidence you can dance with anyone. Forget that girl!
You look great dude!
Listen, there’s a lot more variability in what women find attractive than what guys find attractive. One girl will find you fine as hell and another will walk away from you in disgust. A classy girl will, well, have more class about it but it doesn’t sound like you were approaching a classy girl here.
Seriously, I’ve had girls who I’d generosly rate a 6 turn around and refuse to give me the time of day, and had girls who are a 9 approach *me* at bars to talk. It’s a shit show, unfortunately, and you have to have thick skin to deal with it, so don’t let women determine your self worth for you.