I’m 36M and have been together with my 32F girlfriend for 3 months. This is my first relationship after losing my wife 5 years ago so I admit I took some time to get used to dating, especially since I hadn’t been with anyone new since like 2010 when I started dating my wife.
We have had sex a couple of times and during those times, we’ve both been either sober or had a couple of drinks, nothing more. It’s of course always been consensual.
Last night, we went to a friend’s party where my girlfriend got super drunk, like she must have had about 8 drinks. I wasn’t drinking that night and dropped her back to her place. Once in, she wanted to have sex. I did want to make sure she was okay with it, so asked her. She said yes of course. I asked again because I knew she was drunk and had had a very long day.
She then got super upset with me and started crying and yelling asking if I was stupid or didn’t find her attractive. I said that’s not the case and I just wanted to make sure she’s really on board with it. She didn’t believe me and made me leave, like literally kicked me out the door.
I called her this morning and she said that she was really offended last night. She said I made her feel like shit and if she says she wants it, she always means it. She then said she needs some time apart to think through things and how I made her feel.
Was I wrong for doing what I did, and how do I make it better?
TL;DR: Double checked that my drunk girlfriend really wanted to have sex. She felt offended and kicked me out as a result