Most of my friends seem to be operating under the similar philosophy. “I don’t have time for your problems, I have my own stuff to deal with. Everyone has their own stuff to deal with. I don’t share, so why do I have to deal with others sharing.”
For context, my friends are good people and they have had time for me in the past. So have I. I still have time to listen to anything they have to say. But the difference is I am sharer. I deal with my problems by talking about it and venting it out so that I can make sense of it. But lately with this narrative, I kind of feel abandoned. While I understand their point of view and get that their mental load might be too much, I have been this way all my life. I don’t know what I can or cannot share. If I cannot share at all then what do I do? I am scared because I feel like there will come a point where they will just see me as a nuisance. How do I change myself? Any tips on how to overcome this? Please be kind.