I really need advice.
I’m 25F in a relationship with 27M. He’s a great boyfriend and he’s the first person I’ve been intimate with. Something I discovered really quickly is that I really enjoy sex, especially giving him oral. We moved in 6 months into our relationship and it was great.
I woke him up with head nearly every day and I would initiate sex at least twice a day. 3 years later and it has slowed down a lot and it has me very sexually frustrated. About 2 months ago, he asked me to stop waking him up with head because he wouldn’t be able to have sex once we were fully up. He said since he would cum in the morning, he felt drained to have sex with me during the day since “I wanted it for breakfast, lunch, and dinner” I obviously stopped but the thing is we went down to having sex about once a day and even every other day. He even bought me toys but it isn’t the same. I think I get off of giving oral and being submissive and the toys are just not doing it for me.
Yesterday he sat me down and asked me if he wasn’t satisfying me. I told him he did satisfy me when we have sex but that I just wasn’t getting enough of it. He blew up on me and told me that he can’t “fuck me every minute of the day that I’m awake”. I felt really bad and I tried to explain to him that I know it’s a me problem, not him but he didn’t want to hear it.
I just need advice. Is this even a sex issue? Is it a relationship issue? What can I do to stop myself from feeling this sexually frustrated? Is it not normal to desire sex as much as I do? I would never pressure him into having more sex but I also can’t help but to feel like I need more sex. I would love to hear from people that have a higher sex drive than their partner. What do you do to not feel sexually frustrated?